Counseling Center Campus Message
Some of you may have known Professor Corkery personally through your interactions with him in and out of the classroom while others may be impacted by the unexpected death of a York professor. When painful circumstances occur they can trigger emotional reactions from our previous and current experiences, and our reaction can take us by surprise. If you or someone you know has been impacted by this tragedy please visit the Counseling Center in 1G03 or call us at (718) 262-2272 to set up an appointment.
Common reactions to grief and loss include:
- Shock and disbelief - Right after a loss, it can be hard to accept what happened. You may feel numb, have trouble believing that the loss really happened, or even deny the truth. If someone you love has died, you may keep expecting him or her to show up, even though you know he or she is gone.
- Sadness - Profound sadness is probably the most universally experienced symptom of grief. You may have feelings of emptiness, despair, yearning, or deep loneliness. You may also cry a lot or feel emotionally unstable.
- Guilt -You may regret or feel guilty about things you did or didn't say or do. You may also feel guilty about certain feelings (e.g. feeling relieved when the person died after a long, difficult illness). After a death, you may even feel guilty for not doing something to prevent the death, even if there was nothing more you could have done.
- Anger - Even if the loss was nobody's fault, you may feel angry and resentful. If you lost a loved one, you may be angry with yourself, God, the doctors, or even the person who died for abandoning you. You may feel the need to blame someone for the injustice that was done to you.
- Fear - A significant loss can trigger a host of worries and fears. You may feel anxious, helpless, or insecure. You may even have panic attacks. The death of a loved one can trigger fears about your own mortality, of facing life without that person, or the responsibilities you now face alone.
- Physical symptoms - We often think of grief as a strictly emotional process, but grief often involves physical problems, including fatigue, nausea, lowered immunity, weight loss or weight gain, aches and pains, and insomnia.
These reactions often last for a few weeks and over time we feel better. To help the natural grieving process here are some tips:
- Talk to friends and family
- Pray and/or meditate
- Get plenty of rest
- Keep a journal
- Eat healthy foods
- Spend time with people you enjoy
- Do things that you enjoy
- Limit or stop your use of alcohol and drugs
If you find that you do not naturally feel better over a few weeks then it is time to consider visiting a professional counselor. The Counseling Center can assist you, please contact us at 718-262-2272 or visit us in 1G03.